My village, my all.

So, my last blog made its debut on Thanksgiving weekend, but the taste was bitter and the tone was harsh.  I had learned of the betrayal of a friend weeks ago and the anger was seeping from my pores. The negativity needed an escape hatch – and with its exit, I was given a breath of fresh air. 

Today, I bring to you the full pendulum swing – from betrayed to beholden.

I am surrounded by some pretty amazing people. I’ve known this for a long time, but recent events have reminded me just how lucky I am. 

While growing up, I so remember my mom frequently repeating the old adage: “It takes a village to raise a child.” I heard the words often, but I never really assimilated the idea until I myself became a mom. I remember those early years of child rearing, when my husband and I were pulled in a million directions, it was truly comforting to have the support from our families. Nana was often called in to pinch when a fever broke, a daytime lift was required or someone needed to attend the 3pm daycare concert. 

Also, as I well know now – there is no manual when it comes to parenting, so my husband and I often had to rely solely on our moral compasses and pure instinct when making key parenting decisions. In this respect, having insight from other parents was a source of reassurance, as was the friendly shoulder to cry on or the permission to vent when our parenting exploits didn’t turn out as planned.  

The amazing thing is – this support system goes way beyond the many people who have touched the lives of my children. Now my village – who helped my husband and I raise our kids – actually includes my children, who continue to support me, teach me lessons and help me grow every day. 

As I look around me today, I have literally created my own village – and WOW – it’s almost utopic.

I consider myself extremely lucky to be surrounded by all these amazing humans who are true pillars to my existence. If I am down, I know someone will help pick me up. If I need to vent – I have multiple ears willing to listen. If I need a lift – someone will come. If I need a meal – someone will cook or order food. If I need help at work – I have amazing colleagues who can pinch hit at the ping of a text. I truly feel supported in all aspects of my life. And for this I am extremely grateful. 

So, to all of you who form my inner circle: thanks for having my back. I am eternally grateful for the space you take up in my life, the glasses you hold up for me and the air you allow me to breathe. 

xo

R.