The one about Friends

We are born into family or placed into them without much input.

But we choose our friends.

(Sidebar: Wow – did I ever choose wisely?!?!)

Some friendships are fleeting. They serve a purpose in the moment.  They are born of circumstance and may not have the wherewithal to withstand the trials and tribulations of a lifetime.

On the other hand, some bonds can rival or even supersede the importance of bloodlines. There are friends who are our family, as they provide us with a home base: a place of comfort, compassion and care.

The warmth and light of the rising sun.

And then, a friend can also be anything in between…as long as you let them.

A friend can be a mirror, reflecting images of ourselves and providing us with important feedback and insight into our inner selves. When we open up to friendship – our guard comes down and we can deep dive into ourselves: our hopes, our dreams, our fears.

The reflection can light the path to our true self.

A friend can be a sounding board. As we are trying to figure out how to react or what exactly to do. They can help us sort out the puzzle pieces. Allowing someone into our inner thoughts and foremost concerns can lead us to amazing clarity, as we are exposed to another vantage point.

The additional insight can help tip the ball into the basket, when we’re oh so close to that slam dunk.

A friend can be a guru – providing a source of wisdom. They can help us navigate difficult decisions and sticky situations as we rely on their knowledge and experience.

The support can keep us afloat in the choppiest of waters – letting us know that we are not alone at sea.

Regardless of the level, the intensity, the age, the frequency, the source…friends are key players in the game of life.

Friendships are invaluable – they are not to be taken for granted or ignored. The need love and attention just like any other relationship. There is give and take. While things may not always be even – there may be times of more take and less give – they are always fair. Because a true friend has our back. Even in their darkest hour – they keep a candle lit.

To all my friends – whether I saw you this week or haven’t seen you since my adult children were babes – thanks for helping me become who I am today. As one wise friend said to me this week: How lucky am I to be surrounded by such extraordinary people?!

Sending you all hugs – and letting you know I am here, ready to muck through life’s messier parts with you…as always, with Grit&Grace.

XO

R.